Ask these 36 questions to fall in love

I recently read a very interesting article on CBC News which indicated that you can fall in love with a stranger by asking 36 questions and staring into each other’s eyes for about 4 minutes.


Is this for real?  Not that I don’t believe in true love, love at first sight, etc., but REALLY?

Here is the interesting part.  The original article by Mandy Lan Catron originally appeared in the New York Times in 2015 and was based on the writer’s personal experiment.  Guess what?  You got it, it worked!  The subject in her study is now her life partner!


Catron based her experiment on a study  by psychologist Aurthur Aron, who suggested a pair of strangers could fall in love by asking each other a set of 36 personal questions, followed by staring into each other’s eyes for four minutes.

Dr. Aron’s study was conducted in a laboratory, where the strangers walked in through separate lab doors, sat face to face and answered the questions.  Then, they silently stared into each other’s eyes.  Fast forward six months, they invited the entire lab to their wedding.  YUP!

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Okay guys, you need to try this!  Even if you’re already dating, or are married.  Doesn’t this sound intriguing?  Might be a fun date night thing to make your love stronger! love1-e1510539384368.png

Sooo, grab some wine, sit down with that someone special and go for it!  Read one question to your partner, you both answer and then switch roles for the next question.


SET I (1-12)
  • Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
  • Would you like to be famous? In what way?
  • Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
  • What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
  • When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
  • If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
  • Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
  • Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
  • For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
  • If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
  • Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
  • If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
SET II (13-24)
  • If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
  • Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
  • What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
  • What do you value most in a friendship?
  • What is your most treasured memory?
  • What is your most terrible memory?
  • If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
  • What does friendship mean to you?
  • What roles do love and affection play in your life?
  • Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
  • How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
  • How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
SET III (25-36)
  • Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling … “
  • Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share … “
  • If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
  • Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
  • Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
  • When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
  • Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
  • What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
  • If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
  • Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
  • Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
  • Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

Good luck lovebirds!  Let me know how you did!




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